Annual conference is open to anyone who wants to know more about sex, even geek-chasers
In a room full of librarians, information technologists and other hyper-intelligent yet socially awkward types discussing sex, I learned something about myself: Evidently, I’m what is known as a “geek-chaser.” The fifth annual Sexy Spring conference in Minneapolis had something for everyone to explore, and at the Sunday workshop “I’m with Einstein: Geek Fetishes Revealed,” I realized that my fondness for intellect and thick-framed glasses is common. Most fall for Superman. I swoon for Clark Kent.
Sexy Spring is all about sex. It bills itself as a “radical, sex/body positive sexual education skill-share and conference focused on exploring the ways sex, sexuality, gender, relationships, communication, health, our bodies and our choices affect our lives.” If it sounds like a mouthful, it should. Sexy Spring is an incredibly diverse experience.
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Everything is open to discussion: from kink to demystifying transgender bodies and sexuality, from raising a family to making your own sex toys.
In even the most enlightened sex education courses in schools these days, students learn only about abstaining from sex and the responsibilities of pregnancy, the mechanics of reproduction and body parts, and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases. Sexy Spring picks up where the high school health teacher left off — with the myriad ways that humans communicate, appreciate and contemplate sex and sexuality.
Garrett Ferderber, a founding member of the Sexy Spring collective, says the need is there for such a conference. “Sex is a positive force in the world and we wanted to have sex education that is ongoing for a lifespan,” said Ferderber. “No other venues exist.” And that’s why a group of radicals came together five years ago to create that venue.
Attending a sex conference can be intimidating, but the experience is overwhelmingly positive. Trained “vibes watchers” attend every function to make sure everyone is respectful. The moderators are not institutional experts but regular folks who have something to teach based on their own experiences. Held in Ford Hall at the University of Minnesota, the discussions feel more like friends sitting around a dinner table than a classroom lecture.
Many of the workshops focused on relationships and communication. “A Look at the Experiences and Perceptions of Relationships: What Happens when Disability is Thrown into the Mix?” examined the unique issues in relationships where one partner experiences disability and the other doesn’t. “Hella Nervous” focused on shy kids, introverts and nervous wrecks and how to improve communication and flirting skills. “Kids in Community” centered on parents and prospective parents and aimed to “address both the emotional and physical needs of families.”
A more hard-hitting workshop was hosted by educators from the Smitten Kitten, a retailer of adult sex toys and equipment in Uptown. “Making Safer and Sexier Decisions with Your Sex Toys” imparted the dangers associated with many sex toys on the market — many contain toxic and potentially carcinogenic chemicals not disclosed to the customer. The Smitten Kitten has pioneered the Coalition Against Toxic Toys, a nonprofit that works to educate consumers.
Perhaps one of the more groundbreaking workshops was “What’s Your Kink Got to Do with Your Shrink?: The intersection between alternative sexual practices and psychotherapy.” The workshop led participants on issues of how to find a kink-friendly therapist and how to fight stigma when talking about pathologically neutral sexual practices. It also helped participants in talking with therapists about the line between healthy and unhealthy sexual practices and how to identify the line between the two.
Sexy Spring is run as a collective. The workshops, entertainment and location are decided by those who show up. “We try to be open and accessible to everyone,” said Ferderber. Indeed, all it takes to participate is to show up, be ready to learn and respect others’ experiences.
Ferderber said that they are continually looking for new faces to help plan the event and create new workshops. “New people need to get involved, shape it and make it work for them. And keep passing it on.”
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