Hey Nicky!
There’s a guy in my circle of friends who can be nice, but who can also be possessive and churlish with women. A friend who’s hooked up with him says he has a certain syndrome afflicting particularly well-endowed men, who think they’re something special and should be treated accordingly. I’m skeptical…I think that’s just how this guy is. Do you think that “syndrome” exists?
– Sarah
Dear Sarah,
Mystery surrounds how penis size affects men’s behavior and personality. People talk about pseudoscientific conditions like “small penis syndrome,” “big penis syndrome,” and “penis envy,” and the mainstream media certainly suggest a link between penis size and manliness. We all get plenty of spam about increasing the s1ze of our manh00ds, even though we’re told, “it’s not the size that matters, it’s how you use it.” I don’t believe in any “syndrome” that causes men to be rude and possessive. I’ve known harsh, inconsiderate men who are small-penised, kind and pleasant men who are well-endowed, and cocky jerks with large cocks!
So what does this guy’s attitude have to do with what he has going on in his pants? I’d say very little. I do think that a man with a large penis can get a little “big-headed” (pun intended). If they constantly have women praising their johnsons, they may start to think they are “something special,” but I agree with you that this doesn’t cause that kind of behavior. If the guy is acting like a douche because of the size of his penis, well, he started out as a douche. I think this kind of behavior is caused by how the guy was raised and his innate personality. It sounds like he doesn’t see women as deserving respect if this is how he acts!
That being said, some men, big cocks or not, think they don’t have to treat women well. We, as women, should do what we can to discourage men like this from getting away with thinking they are special. It’s okay to hook up with a guy just for fun, but be sure to pay more attention to the nice guys who may or may not be packing so much man-meat. It’s not all about the schlong, and the guy who treats you right is the one you’ll be happier with long-term.
Are you just curious, or are you or your friend interested in this guy? To all ladies who know men like this: If he “can be nice” but can also be a jerk, then I suggest you go for a man who is always nice. If you’re trying to make excuses for a guy who is sometimes rude or uncaring by telling yourself, “well, sometimes he is so nice and so sweet,” then you probably need to step back and ask yourself why you have to try to convince yourself that he’s a good guy. If he’s one of those overbearing dudes who wants to claim women then he probably will always be one of those guys, or at least until he grows out of it. I don’t recommend waiting around for a man to change. You might wake up one day and realize how much time you’ve wasted waiting on him. Trust me, I’ve spent enough time trying to convince myself that a man would change.
There are men out there who are chivalrous and kind (and well-endowed), so don’t let anyone get away with using his junk as an excuse to be a dick.
Best of luck dealing with pricks, big and small,
Nicky
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